I was an adult well before “adulting” became a catch phrase, but I completely get the premise.
My equivalent phrase has always been “life is hard” and indeed it can be. Of course, most of us begin learning the “life is hard” lesson well before adulthood, which does serve to lessen the blow somewhat when the real “adulting” begins.
I often get a good chuckle at what “adulting” means to some people and I think, just wait. Just. You. Wait.
While the reality of rent/mortgage, insurance, unending bills, home maintenance, and the like are daunting, figuring out the social aspects of life beyond college are equally as complex, scary, and life changing! Your social calendar begins to look very empty (because all that extra time you thought you’d have is somehow hard to find) and the best of friends that lived just down the hall now live all over the country.
It is so true that the friends you choose can determine the path of your life.
I was in my 30s before I realized just how much of a truth this is.
A series of events occurred when I turned 30 that led me to joining a women’s study group series sponsored by my church, which in turn led me to joining a young adults group at church. Prior to this time, I went to church every Sunday and was a “good” Catholic. But it wasn’t until I met the women in this group that I started living my best life.
Ten plus years later, I still consider these women to be my closest friends not only because they are fabulous women but also because they opened a whole new world of faith for me.
They helped me grow in my love for and relationship with Jesus and changed the way I lived my faith.
What started with complete despair at turning 30 and a loss of a couple of relationships around that same time, became a nudge from the Holy Spirit to jump outside of my comfort zone and join that group.
Joy, laughter, faith, and love, entered my life like I’d never known.
These are the relationships to strive for in life. When you surround yourself with people who share your beliefs, morals, and way of life and build your life on the cornerstone of faith it makes all the tasks of “adulting” that much easier.
So turn from youthful desires and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord with purity of heart. 2 Timothy 2:22